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June 2009 ~ The Maze of Life
June 2009 ~ The Maze of Life
We all have it coming one day ~ the end of life as we know it to be today. And many of us fear the final days or the dreaded moment not sure exactly how it is going to end for us whether it be because of a diagnosis, an accident, an intentional act or a mistake in the process. The end is the end no matter how we get there so, I wonder, why is the fear of death so frightening to some people? Is it because of our fears of the unknown or the fears of the known?
Many of us go through our lives unconsciously, job to job, person to person, day to day, addiction to addiction and the years begin to pass before our eyes as we begin to realize that time is limited, and perhaps, there is less time ahead than there is behind us. If you asked a person dying at the age of twenty years old and another person who has lived for one hundred and twenty years the question “If you could change one thing right now what would it be?” The answers may be similar stating a common thread “I wish I had more time.”
More time to do what ~ work a twelve hour day, sleep until noon, play slots in the casino, or enjoy more quality time with ourselves, our family, close friends or doing the simple pleasures we loved to do? Sometimes, you may hear the respondent say “it’s time” with and willing to move forward in their journey somewhere beyond this life as we know it. Some people may look forward to ending the journey once and for all due to chronic pain, loneliness, and/or confusion. I think it is a matter of perspective as to how we approach not only our deaths but how we approach our daily lives ~ what attitude do we hold in our heart of hearts as we venture into our lives each and every day. In the face of adversity we show our true colors to others however, I want to focus on what we know is really going on inside of us and how much of our hearts do we share in this world with not only our loved ones but others as well?
What have we come to know about our world and how we relate to it throughout the course of our brief lifetime? Did we take the time to explore ourselves not just because life threw us a curve ball or knocked us off our feet but when times were quiet and peaceful, when there was laughter and play, beauty and art, love and good memories? There are at least two sides of the mirror here and whether we see it as life and death, work and play, love or indifference, marriage or divorce, joy or pain, consider that these opportunities exist for all of us as we tangle and become untangled in this maze of life.
Each of us is attempting to figure out what is ahead and, possibly, even more consumed with what is behind in the past without ever really knowing where we stand in the present moment. Until we are in a defining moment that offers the view of some type of finality or ending such as divorce, a termination, a seemingly terminal diagnosis, a death of a loved one or our own death that is waiting patiently in the wings.
What may comfort us in the end may be a pain killer and/or, if we are fortunate enough and if we so choose, have loved ones around us. But I also believe that, based upon our efforts, we seek to find peace in knowing who we really are ~ warts and all.
Experience may be gained when you didn’t have the knowledge to make a better decision but it will most certainly affect your experience when you didn’t apply the knowledge you supposedly had in the moment you needed to make the decision.
Consider how you want to be remembered whether it be because you ended a relationship, moved a thousand miles away, or gently passed away in your sleep. We spend a lifetime making memories and important decisions but it intrigues me that we spend only a few moments summarizing a person’s life as we host a good-bye party, write their obituary for the newspaper and list only a few words on their epitaph. We take a few hours out of our lives to attend a wedding, a wake or memorial service and sometimes we hear words of comfort and love in our time of grief or joy. These times are more for those who are left behind, the living, to reflect and, perhaps, an opportunity to gain a clearer insight and assess where we, ourselves, are now, where we have been and where we want to go from here.
How will I be remembered ~ you already know because you have made a decision about me that, in some ways, is conclusive for you. It is your truth, your perception of what you may or may not have witnessed in real life. Is your opinion based upon a moment, a conversation, a gossip’s manipulative point of view, your own insecurities or from your heart?
More importantly, ask yourself the same question…and determine if you like the answers you hear in your heart knowing what will be said about you after you have breathed your last breath and taken your final ride to the other side. Will it be words of pity and criticism, the toxic residue from a break-up or thoughts of peace and completion?
Will you move from the darkness towards the light in this lifetime, as the man in the maze represents, or unconsciously escape into the shadows of death?
Yes, it matters to each one of us ~ how well we were known for ourselves. There will come our moment in time where someone else will decide how we will be remembered ~ not for our fame but for our anonymous gifts of our vulnerable hearts ~ not for the transient titles or the house we built but for the home we made and the hearts we touched, and more for the journey of our souls and less obsession with the imperfections of our flesh.
As Shakespeare wrote “To be or not to be, that is the question.”
To know myself as I am known by others and be at peace with what resides is when I live and eventually die in my truths of who I am in this lifetime. And, if and when this occurs, then there will be a connection for us all that will make the passing through the veil between life and death worth the while.
Enjoy the journey!
Michaelene
Intuitive Consultant (Personal, Business, Hospice)
www.Sun2SoulTransitions.com
Copyright 2009
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